As i have indicated as the topic of the day, most people enter relationships for the “wrong” reasons to end loneliness , fill a gap , bring themselves loves , or someone to love and those are of better reasons . Others do so to salve their ego , end their depressions , improve their sex life , recover from a previous relationships or believe it or not , to relieve boredom.None of these reasons will work, and unless something dramatic changes along the way, neither will the relationship.
I will challenge that . I don’t think people enter relationships purposefully. I think people enter relationships because they ” fell in love”
I don’t think they stopped to look at why they “fell in love.” What was it to which
they were responding? What need, or set of needs, was being fulfilled?
For most people, love is a response to need fulfillment.
Everyone has needs. You need this, another needs that. You both see in each other a chance for need fulfillment. So you agree—tacitly—to a trade. I’ll trade you
what I’ve got; if you’ll give me what you’ve got.
It’s a transaction. But you don’t tell the truth about it. You don’t say, “I trade you very much.” You say, “I love you very much,” and then the disappointment begins.
By edemos fiawonou.